I want to offer a different kind of encouragement today. My usual message is that you can have it all, just not all at the same time, especially when it comes to money. Lately, I've been seeing more clients living below their highest calling because they're trying to be all things to everyone.

As women, we're naturally nurturing, often getting lost in our roles as wife, mother, sister, friend, daughter, and entrepreneur. But what about the role of ME? Being ourselves can feel inadequate, even selfish. We make time for everyone else, but when we finally have time for ourselves, we don't know what to do with it.

Many high-achieving women experience cross-generational coalition, where there's a role reversal in our lives. We end up mothering our parents or grandparents, or performing at a higher capacity than our pay scale originally indicated, without the reward. Eventually, we wake up feeling as though this is expected of us.

The truth is, this expectation was created by us. We haven't taught people how to treat us, nor have we shown them. It's only a matter of time before we start feeling resentful, lonely, sad, trapped, broke, or even sick.

The only way to change this is to stop trying to be superwoman. Vulnerability is the key to leveling up. Being vulnerable with those around you and having tough conversations about what you want out of life is crucial. Stepping into these roles caps out your emotional and physical bandwidth. Give it time for everyone to adjust to the new you and the new version of themselves.

Stop, say NO (NO is a complete sentence), let go, and get vulnerable! If I can help you trade in your cape for self-fulfillment, just reach out!

Watch the FB live I did on this here! 

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If you got here my safe assumption is that you are feeling stuck, unmotivated, overwhelmed just going through the motions of life when life itself seems to have escaped you. Here are 5 tips to get you unstuck when it comes to your goals:

1. Listen to your body

There was a study done demonstrating that our bodies know that danger before our mind realizes what is going on. The same thing happens to love, anxiety and adrenaline. What is your body telling you about this thing (goal)? Are you stuck because you are afraid of success or afraid of failure? Are you stuck because you are looking for external validation?

2. Listen to your heart
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What does your heart tell you about this thing (stuckness)? Is your heart not in it? Are you doing it to make money or do you honestly love to serve at this level? Are you doing this just to check off boxes or does it actually spark your light?

3. Step Away 

Sometimes we are too emotionally attached to this project to see clearly so getting away from it for a little while and coming back to it can do the trick (even if you have to force it). 

4. Step In

Ask a friend that doesn't care about your feelings or someone who loves you enough to tell you the truth for advice. This special friend needs to care more about your results than your feelings so it helps if its someone outside your circle of love. And relentless about it IF it's your passion. 

5. Ask for Help

Ask for exactly what you want! Ask the children to do chores, the hubs to pick up dinner (on Tuesdays and Thursdays - you need to be precise), the neighbor to mow the lawn, the teenager next door to babysit! Ask for help - we have this sense of community within us that we love to step in and be someone's hero and at the same time we despise asking for help! The trick here when it comes to the people in your daily life is to ask for exactly what you need and no in general terms. Saying I need more help around here does NOT get your point across. A little script is " I need help with (insert precise help) so that I can (insert one step towards your goal)" Ex: " I need you to do dinner on Wednesdays so that I can work on my business during that time". It takes a village and no one benefits from you dragging this out!

Let me know if you feel stuck - I have been there and have gotten myself and many others out of this funk so that they could let go of frustration and step into their full potential! 

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Everyone wants to be a high achiever, but few understand the solitude that often accompanies success. Along the path to achievement, friends and family may no longer relate to us as they once did. This isn't a reflection on them; it's a testament to our growth.

The loneliness experienced by high achievers runs deep. It's the kind of loneliness that finds us crying in the bathtub, seeking solace in a glass of wine. We thought success would bring happiness, yet we find ourselves feeling anxious, guilty, and even resentful of our prosperity.

The cost of outpacing those around us can be steep. Once we've "made it," we may feel like everyone sees us as their personal ATM. Resentment can creep in, tarnishing our hard-won prosperity. It was simpler before, happier even. We weren't so isolated.

As high achievers, we've outgrown our old selves. We've become better versions of ourselves, attracting more opportunities, resources, and wealth. To navigate this journey, we must be our own best friend and partner, loving ourselves unconditionally. The world will follow suit in due time, and the extra money will be a welcome bonus.

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Have you ever worked in a place where there was an open door policy but when push comes to shove there was nothing opened about that policy at all?
Have you ever been reprimanded or your privileges taken away because of something that was completely out of control?

I have and it was NOT fun at all.

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Before we go any further just know that I’m a mom just like you who makes mistakes daily and just tries very hard to get my kids to eat their veggies and be kind
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I was asked a few times this week about my take on momo. My response is simple - we have an open door policy.
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I told them what was going on with YouTube and KidsTube and explained to them that the world is an amazing place full of amazing people and there are some people who are not very amazing (aka bad guys) that wanted kids to hurt themselves.
I told them that I trusted them enough to know that if something isn’t right they need to come to me and show me so we can be part of a solution (reporting it).
I did not take it away from them because I can’t take them away from the world. I wish I could.

I don’t want my kids to ever be victimized and I believe in their capacity to be empowered through all the experiences that we go through.
It would not be fair for me to take away something they enjoy because of something completely out of their control.
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It would have been an open door policy gone wrong.

So we remain watching electronics for 90 minutes a day because we still believe that the world is indeed a beautiful place.
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If you are a mom who felt in your heart to take it away, all the power to you! You know more than anyone else what is BEST for your family!

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 One of my New Year's resolutions or evolution as I have renamed it is to live more with less! I have found that when I have less I truthfully live more! A few years ago when I had to pack my 4 bedroom house in a 20 x 20 truck I realized how much excess we had as a family. Then moving into a smaller house with less things gave me so much freedom. 

Thinking back I was "slaved" to my things. That big house took forever to clean and all of those clothes took forever to wash and the pile of 20 plates and 50 cups did not wash itself or got themselves to the dishwasher/cabinets without some help. So many weekends I spent cleaning and cooking to have a less chaotic week. So many times I said no to people, events, opportunities because I needed to get my stuff in order! 

This year my word is "selfish" which is not a bad thing I have learned. This is the year that I will put myself first in all areas of my life. This is the year that my happiness will come from living simply. This year I will de-clutter the house, my business, my circle of friends and most of all my heart. 

I have let go of all of the things that no longer serve me to create a "transformational" (Just made up that word) space in and out of my physical space. One of the first things that I did was to say NO and know in my heart that no explanation is necessary.  No, I don't feel like it and that is the end of that. I don't have to have a mysterious illness or pretend to be busy. The people worth keeping in my circle understand it very well and the ones that don't I am happy to see them go and grow. 

Lots of clients tell me that they want to put their house in order but are emotionally unable to do so. My response is one that I live by: "When our outside is organized the clutter inside of us tend to organize itself".  If you feel emotionally unable to organize make yourself do it anyways. Do the flylady method which is 15 minutes at a time (her motto is you can do anything for 15 minutes - check her out at www.flylady.net) or do the KonMari method which is by category (clothes, books, paper, miscellaneous and sentimental - check out her documentary on Netflix - Tidying up with Marie Kondo ) but do it!

You deserve to have the best life - 

​And the lightest one too! 

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Here are the 7 things I have learned about forgiveness:

The truth about forgiveness is that is sucks. Plain and simple. Someone has hurt you badly enough that can almost feel like they squeezed your heart with their bare hands and stopped squeezing just so you could live and suffer through it. 

A few years ago someone I loved hurt me badly. Very badly. Not only did he hurt me but he also hurt other people that I love. And couple of weeks ago I actually forgave him. Not half-ass forgiveness. Like really, really forgave him. It felt so good and so freeing. Just to turn around and have someone else very close to me hurt me again. My conversation with God went something like this "Are you serious? I just graduated this lesson I don't need to practice this on a weekly basis!" 

What I learned about forgiveness is that - it's not all about you! As hard it is to believe that person have their own reasoning for doing what they did. It doesn't make sense - and the more you try to  make sense of it the more it is going to hurt - but just know that it has nothing to do a with you. 

And then again it's ALL ABOUT YOU! Forgiveness is all about the way you deal with it and it has nothing to do with how sorry they are or that they will never do this again. It is about YOU and YOU alone! 

The longer you wait the harder it gets! The more time it passes the more we internalize things and we just add more fuel to the fire. Every little thing that happens we will be adding to the first problem and forgiving just becomes harder. 

It involves being vulnerable and vulnerability is never fun. It makes us feel weak and exposed but vulnerability is a major place of growth. Growing pains are real in the physical and emotional whelm. 

Forgiving is not forgetting the bible talks about forgiving but it doesn't ask us to forget. A lot of people have the misconception that unless they can forget they cannot forgive and that is not true. You might never forget what happened but you can react and regain the power. 

Forgiveness makes you let go of all of your expectations. You forgive to just forgive and let go of the chains of your past without any expectation! After all expectations leads to disappointment! 

​Click here to watch my coffee chat about forgiveness. 

You have goals—amazing goals. But life often seems to derail you from them. Goal setting is crucial; it's the oxygen to our dreams. Goals give you focus, allow you to measure your efforts, and provide motivation. However, the struggle is real. Life doesn’t care about your deadlines or plans.
You might be struggling with your business, personal life, or even with yourself. Most people find it hard to set goals due to various reasons, like lack of focus, priority, consistency, or accountability, and fear of failure.
How to Set Goals:

1. Identify Your Goals: Define your end result. Have a 5-year goal broken into yearly goals, further broken into quarters.
2. Focus: List your goals and determine what you'll sacrifice to achieve them—time, leisure activities, etc.
3. Prioritize: Number your goals by importance. Focus on what will have the most impact.
4. Consistency: Break goals down further. For example, if your goal is $50k/year, break it down to $137.36/day. Create a daily checklist and stick to it.
5. Accountability: Find an accountability partner who cares more about your success than your feelings. Consider joining a mastermind group or hiring a coach.

Consistency is key. Self-sabotage and procrastination are challenges, but setting systems in place and having accountability can help you overcome them. Sign up for that mastermind, meet with a friend, or hire a coach to propel you to success!

And if you want to join Social Sesh for weekly accountability to your goals, click on the link below. 

Have you ever felt like you're doing all the right things, yet life seems to be getting worse instead of better? This is a common experience, but it's important to remember that there is often a breakdown before a breakthrough.
When you're working on improving your marriage, your business, or your career, it's normal to face challenges and setbacks. It might feel like every effort you make is met with resistance or that things are getting harder instead of easier.
But this is not the time to give up. Instead, it's a time to fine-tune your plans and stay committed to your goals. Every time you push yourself to reach your full potential, you will be tested. These tests are meant to prepare you for your comeback.
Don't let setbacks distract you from your final destination. Instead, see them as opportunities to refine your approach and prepare for your breakthrough. Stay focused, stay committed, and remember that your breakthrough is just around the corner.

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