Money mindset is a big talk these days.
Some people even believe that they can wish their debt away. I am not trying to pop anyone's unicorn balloon here but the truth is as much as the law of attraction is true there is a methodology to create the perfect money mindset.
First let's be clear on the law of attraction. Our brains are like a WiFi device. We emit signals that the Universe (I call him God) has a way to bring those things into fruition - good or bad. The old saying that disasters come in threes comes from the mindset that as soon as something bad happens we are like 'OK, what is next?'. The opposite happens when we are on such a good strike that we are almost "high on positivity " that we attract more good things and tend to overlook the not so great things.
Then there is the whole "money mindset" being used as a marketing strategy. Lots of gurus are teaching these money mindsets in order to sell you something that is out of your budget and unless you have these "money mindset hat" on you know better than buy it. Just wrong.
Here is what I do believe about money mindset: It will come once you get the practical side of money down. It is impossible to have a positive mindset when you can't pay your mortgage and are living paycheck to paycheck. You cannot thrive when you are trying to survive (someone said this - forgot who it was but I will credit them when I come across this quote again).
The mindset will come naturally when you feel more in control. When you have a budget, an emergency fund, and a cushion. It will come when you know where that next client will come from and what you should do today to make sure your tomorrow will be peaceful. Most of the mindset will come naturally.
The part that doesn't come naturally you will have to dig deep and change the way you talk to yourself about money. You will have to change those ingrained thoughts that are mostly a reflection of our childhood and our struggles.
All of that money mindset will be forever changed when you realize that you are no longer that person - when you start believing that you have grown, you have flourished and you have done and will do amazing things!
Last week I saw a client in my bathing suit.
I have debated invoicing her for this, since I normally don't charge people to see me in my bathing suit. =)
Honestly, I even hesitated to take a coaching call at the pool. But, wasn't the working from anywhere what attracted me to work virtually?
I faced my fears and all my insecurities took her call while watching my children play in the pool (they are great swimmers by the way), eyes on them and my heart on her. Then I noticed this one couple starting at me. They were pointing and clearly talking about me. My mind went there. I could feel the judgment. Were they judging my appearance? After two kids and my love of pizza things are not like they used to be. Were they judging me for being on the phone while my children play? Were they judging that I was not "present"?
I finished the coaching call and got my children out of the pool so we could go for lunch. The couple complemented me in my bathing suit and I felt the judgment rolling off my shoulder as it should have.
I was doing exactly what I tell my clients not to do. I was assuming, projecting my own insecurities as a mom to this situation and feeling the famous mom guilt for not being in the moment.
Truthfully, I didn't want to be in the moment. I wanted to work. I wanted to serve my client in my bathing because that is what I love doing. Even if mega million comes in my favor I will still coach! But the mom guilt is still there, poking its head and it gets a chance.
I reminded myself that I had just spent a week being "present" and in the moment with my children: playing billiard, power hockey, swimming, and watching movies. I have been present when they are sick, when they are having bad days and even when they are having great days - but what I am giving them is much more precious than being present, I am giving them a happy mom!
Your children don't care about your work or your cellulite - they want for you is the same you want for them - a happy heart!
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