Stop trying to be superwoman
This is going to be a different kind of encouragement that I usually do.
My message is mostly you can have it all - just not all at the same time (when it comes to money) but as of late I am seeing more and more clients who are living life way below their highest calling because they are trying to be all things to everyone.
As women we are nurturing in nature which can lead to us being lost in our roles as wife, mother, sister, friend, daughter, entrepreneur....and what is the name of the role for ourselves??? ME!!! Being us feels inadequate even selfish. We make time for everyone but when we finally have time for ourselves we don't even know what to do with it.
Many women who are also high achievers go through what is called as cross generation coalition which happens when there is role reversal in our lives. Basically when we try to mother our parents, grandparents or even perform at a higher capacity than the pay scale that we were originally hired for without the reward and once we wake up gasping for air we feel as it though it has become the expectation from us.
The truth of the matter is that this expectation was created by you. You have not taught people how to treat you. Most importantly you have NOT shown them how to treat you which is just a matter of time before you start to feel resentful, lonely, sad, trapped, broke and even sick.
The only way to really change this situation is to stop trying to be superwoman. Being superwoman is not the way to level up. Vulnerability is the only way to reach your next level. Being vulnerable with those around you and having those tough conversations that this is not what you want out of life and stepping into those roles is capping out your emotional and physical bandwidth. Then give it time for everyone to get accustomed to the new version of you and the new version of themselves too!
Stop, say NO (NO is a complete sentence), let go, and get vulnerable!
And if I can help you trade in your cape for self fulfillment - just reach out!
Watch the FB live I did on this here!
7/24/2019 01:33:26 pm
Great article. A reminder for all of us women who give and give and give and suck ourselves dry in the process. Being vulnerable and speaking up is the key that we all need to find ourselves again! Thanks...
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