I want to offer a different kind of encouragement today. My usual message is that you can have it all, just not all at the same time, especially when it comes to money. Lately, I've been seeing more clients living below their highest calling because they're trying to be all things to everyone.
As women, we're naturally nurturing, often getting lost in our roles as wife, mother, sister, friend, daughter, and entrepreneur. But what about the role of ME? Being ourselves can feel inadequate, even selfish. We make time for everyone else, but when we finally have time for ourselves, we don't know what to do with it.
Many high-achieving women experience cross-generational coalition, where there's a role reversal in our lives. We end up mothering our parents or grandparents, or performing at a higher capacity than our pay scale originally indicated, without the reward. Eventually, we wake up feeling as though this is expected of us.
The truth is, this expectation was created by us. We haven't taught people how to treat us, nor have we shown them. It's only a matter of time before we start feeling resentful, lonely, sad, trapped, broke, or even sick.
The only way to change this is to stop trying to be superwoman. Vulnerability is the key to leveling up. Being vulnerable with those around you and having tough conversations about what you want out of life is crucial. Stepping into these roles caps out your emotional and physical bandwidth. Give it time for everyone to adjust to the new you and the new version of themselves.
Stop, say NO (NO is a complete sentence), let go, and get vulnerable! If I can help you trade in your cape for self-fulfillment, just reach out!
Watch the FB live I did on this here!
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