Last week, I had a unique coaching experience—I saw a client in my bathing suit. I've debated invoicing her for this, as I normally don't charge people to see me in my bathing suit! Honestly, I even hesitated to take a coaching call at the pool. But, isn't working from anywhere what attracted me to virtual work in the first place?
I faced my fears and insecurities, taking her call while watching my children play in the pool (they're great swimmers, by the way), with my eyes on them and my heart on her. Then, I noticed a couple staring at me, pointing, and clearly talking about me. My mind went to judgment. Were they judging my appearance, my choice to work while my children played, or my presence in the moment?
After finishing the coaching call and getting my children out of the pool for lunch, the couple complimented me on my bathing suit. I felt the judgment rolling off my shoulder as it should have.
I realized I was assuming and projecting my own insecurities as a mom onto the situation, feeling the famous mom guilt for not being fully present. Truthfully, I didn't want to be in the moment. I wanted to work, to serve my client in my bathing suit because that's what I love doing. Even if a mega million comes my way, I will still coach!
But the mom guilt still pokes its head in. I reminded myself that I had just spent a week being present and in the moment with my children: playing billiards, air hockey, swimming, and watching movies. I've been present when they're sick, having bad days, and even great days. But what I'm giving them is much more precious than mere presence—I'm giving them a happy mom!
Your children don't care about your work or your cellulite—they want what you want for them: a happy heart!
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