Today, despite the kids taking their sweet time getting ready and waking up late, we somehow made it right on time. We got everything that normally takes us one hour done in under 30 minutes, breakfast included.
There have been times when I've stayed busy but didn't get much done. Conversely, there were times I was productive yet didn't feel busy at all. According to Mel Robbins' book, "The 5 Second Rule," this phenomenon is called Parkinson's Law, which states that "work expands to fill the amount of time given to it." In simpler terms, tasks will take as long as you allow them to take. Some of us stay busy to avoid doing things we no longer have the motivation for. But here's the thing: you don't always need motivation. Getting to the next level in any area of your life requires discipline—doing the thing you said you would do long after you feel like doing it. Here are a few tips for being productive and efficient instead of just busy:
Try these tips and let me know how they worked out for you! And if you are not sure what being productive would even look like for you - schedule your Business X-Ray Today!
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Feeling stuck? It's not because you don’t know what to do next. It's because you're trying to pour from an empty cup. You're exhausted from all the decisions, choices, and ideas aimed at making others' lives easier. No wonder you can’t even decide on dinner.You spend your days “coaching” your team, family, and friends, leaving little bandwidth for your own projects, dreams, or vision. Eventually, you start resenting everyone around you. You do so much for them—why can’t they put you first for a change?
But here's the thing: when you don’t put yourself first, you create a pattern. They're simply emulating how you treat yourself. You can't expect anyone else to prioritize you if you don’t do it for yourself. And you can’t be mad at them for it either. You started this mess! You might believe that putting yourself first is selfish and therefore bad. But being selfish is only a negative for those who benefited from you putting yourself last. The world doesn’t benefit from you being the worst version of yourself. No one does. When you start putting yourself first, everything changes. When you start sleeping at a decent hour, eating decent meals, and working on your dreams, your spark becomes contagious. Those who love you will beam from your happiness and start emulating the right behavior, working on themselves too. There's nothing more empowering than watching someone chase their dreams. When you decide that you are your best investment, EVERYTHING changes. Isn’t it time for a change? If you got here my safe assumption is that you are feeling stuck, unmotivated, overwhelmed just going through the motions of life when life itself seems to have escaped you. Here are 5 tips to get you unstuck when it comes to your goals:
1. Listen to your body There was a study done demonstrating that our bodies know that danger before our mind realizes what is going on. The same thing happens to love, anxiety and adrenaline. What is your body telling you about this thing (goal)? Are you stuck because you are afraid of success or afraid of failure? Are you stuck because you are looking for external validation? 2. Listen to your heart What does your heart tell you about this thing (stuckness)? Is your heart not in it? Are you doing it to make money or do you honestly love to serve at this level? Are you doing this just to check off boxes or does it actually spark your light? 3. Step Away Sometimes we are too emotionally attached to this project to see clearly so getting away from it for a little while and coming back to it can do the trick (even if you have to force it). 4. Step In Ask a friend that doesn't care about your feelings or someone who loves you enough to tell you the truth for advice. This special friend needs to care more about your results than your feelings so it helps if its someone outside your circle of love. And relentless about it IF it's your passion. 5. Ask for Help Ask for exactly what you want! Ask the children to do chores, the hubs to pick up dinner (on Tuesdays and Thursdays - you need to be precise), the neighbor to mow the lawn, the teenager next door to babysit! Ask for help - we have this sense of community within us that we love to step in and be someone's hero and at the same time we despise asking for help! The trick here when it comes to the people in your daily life is to ask for exactly what you need and no in general terms. Saying I need more help around here does NOT get your point across. A little script is " I need help with (insert precise help) so that I can (insert one step towards your goal)" Ex: " I need you to do dinner on Wednesdays so that I can work on my business during that time". It takes a village and no one benefits from you dragging this out! Let me know if you feel stuck - I have been there and have gotten myself and many others out of this funk so that they could let go of frustration and step into their full potential! If you want to fastest way to get unstuck, schedule your Business X-Ray to get my personalize advice today! When we think of success, wealth and stability it all ties to money but it goes way beyond dollars and cents - wealth is who we become. You can probably think of people who are just "lucky" no matter what and those who are very "unlucky" no matter how hard they try. The lucky or unlucky part has become part of their personality and its almost like they wouldn't be who they are if it wasn't for all of the luck or unlucky they attract. When I completed my 100 hours of coaching for my certification I felt so proud. I was the first one in my class to complete the program (they don't let us graduate until we complete the test with 100% accuracy) so that was a big deal - but the icing on the cake is who I became. I became a person that coaches everyone around me when the opportunity arises and there are plenty of times that I get in trouble (my husband calls me out on this all the time ). Recently I was part of marketing research and I love helping other women so I don't mind answering all of their marketing questions, but I did unintentionally add a twist to it. I started coaching the researcher and the next day I work up to this message: So coaching is not what I do, coaching is who I have become (sorry hubs)!
On your own path to health and wealth who do you want to be? Do you want to be someone known for their generosity and grace? Do you want to be the one known as the trailblazer? Do you want to be someone that has left a legacy way beyond your own lifetime? I know I do! I want to be able to change people's lives - not only through coaching but also through giving! It all starts with a decision! Just one decision that needs to be repeated day in and day out! You are one decision away from a completely different life! If you ever wanted to have me over for coffee and go over each piece of your business, schedule your Business X-Ray Today! Everyone wants to be a high achiever, but few understand the solitude that often accompanies success. Along the path to achievement, friends and family may no longer relate to us as they once did. This isn't a reflection on them; it's a testament to our growth.
The loneliness experienced by high achievers runs deep. It's the kind of loneliness that finds us crying in the bathtub, seeking solace in a glass of wine. We thought success would bring happiness, yet we find ourselves feeling anxious, guilty, and even resentful of our prosperity. The cost of outpacing those around us can be steep. Once we've "made it," we may feel like everyone sees us as their personal ATM. Resentment can creep in, tarnishing our hard-won prosperity. It was simpler before, happier even. We weren't so isolated. As high achievers, we've outgrown our old selves. We've become better versions of ourselves, attracting more opportunities, resources, and wealth. To navigate this journey, we must be our own best friend and partner, loving ourselves unconditionally. The world will follow suit in due time, and the extra money will be a welcome bonus. Join me inside my IG channel and join a community of other amazing powerhouses! We are safe from the bomb cyclone that came through Colorado and even though my husband got stuck in a major highway he came home unharmed. That got me thinking about all of those people that were on their way to work and did not have a choice but put themselves in harms way to make ends meet financially. That is the what money does - money gives us options and stability. It gives us power to say NO when we need to.
And that is my purpose to get as many people as possible to have the power to say NO or HECK YEAH to opportunities presented to do. Give them the power to control their money instead of being controlled by it. And this is why I am giving a FREE monthlong masterclass with a whole week of implementation! When coming up with the content of this masterclass and workbook I thought about how much money impacts every part of our lives and as soon as we get everything else organized money just becomes an automated task like typing in your password - it's almost second nature! And tell me, what would you like to say HECK YEAH to? Have you ever worked in a place where there was an open door policy but when push comes to shove there was nothing opened about that policy at all?
Have you ever been reprimanded or your privileges taken away because of something that was completely out of control? I have and it was NOT fun at all. *** Before we go any further just know that I’m a mom just like you who makes mistakes daily and just tries very hard to get my kids to eat their veggies and be kind *** I was asked a few times this week about my take on momo. My response is simple - we have an open door policy. I told them what was going on with YouTube and KidsTube and explained to them that the world is an amazing place full of amazing people and there are some people who are not very amazing (aka bad guys) that wanted kids to hurt themselves. I told them that I trusted them enough to know that if something isn’t right they need to come to me and show me so we can be part of a solution (reporting it). I did not take it away from them because I can’t take them away from the world. I wish I could. I don’t want my kids to ever be victimized and I believe in their capacity to be empowered through all the experiences that we go through. It would not be fair for me to take away something they enjoy because of something completely out of their control. It would have been an open door policy gone wrong. So we remain watching electronics for 90 minutes a day because we still believe that the world is indeed a beautiful place. ❤️ If you are a mom who felt in your heart to take it away, all the power to you! You know more than anyone else what is BEST for your family! If you are ready for your business to be simple so that you can be totally present for your family, book your Business X-Ray today! When you are in need of something serious done you look for a specialist in that one area - and that is why specialists cost more - they have invested time and money in their specialty and are there to offer you a result, not a treatment.
My business coach challenged me to become a specialist, an expert, honestly I think she saw the expert in me long before I did and her job was to coach that out of me! I am a specialist, an expert per se, of helping women in business; challenging them to their next level. I absolutely love working with business women. I have always been a girls' girl. I truly don't get the cattiness, the fake or lack of lack of trust that all of that estrogen can bring. I love supporting other women and being part of their journey. And if I am being honest here not a lot of men wants a woman telling him what to do, especially when it comes to money (my specialty)! As women in business we have different sets of challenges than our male counterparts. We are raising babies and businesses at the same time. We wear our emotions in our sleeves having a hard time making choices between our feelings and our profits. I have coached women, men, couples and even children (through their moms) but my rock star clients are all women! They are women in business doing amazing things but somehow feel stuck, financially strapped, craving more from life and from themselves too! They are tired of running in circles and are ready to live a more purposeful life! So now, I help women in business level up, make and keep more money, and become the powerhouse they are meant to be! Come join me! Download the Millionaire Marketing Blueprint Today! One of my New Year's resolutions or evolution as I have renamed it is to live more with less! I have found that when I have less I truthfully live more! A few years ago when I had to pack my 4 bedroom house in a 20 x 20 truck I realized how much excess we had as a family. Then moving into a smaller house with less things gave me so much freedom.
Thinking back I was "slaved" to my things. That big house took forever to clean and all of those clothes took forever to wash and the pile of 20 plates and 50 cups did not wash itself or got themselves to the dishwasher/cabinets without some help. So many weekends I spent cleaning and cooking to have a less chaotic week. So many times I said no to people, events, opportunities because I needed to get my stuff in order! This year my word is "selfish" which is not a bad thing I have learned. This is the year that I will put myself first in all areas of my life. This is the year that my happiness will come from living simply. This year I will de-clutter the house, my business, my circle of friends and most of all my heart. I have let go of all of the things that no longer serve me to create a "transformational" (Just made up that word) space in and out of my physical space. One of the first things that I did was to say NO and know in my heart that no explanation is necessary. No, I don't feel like it and that is the end of that. I don't have to have a mysterious illness or pretend to be busy. The people worth keeping in my circle understand it very well and the ones that don't I am happy to see them go and grow. Lots of clients tell me that they want to put their house in order but are emotionally unable to do so. My response is one that I live by: "When our outside is organized the clutter inside of us tend to organize itself". If you feel emotionally unable to organize make yourself do it anyways. Do the flylady method which is 15 minutes at a time (her motto is you can do anything for 15 minutes - check her out at www.flylady.net) or do the KonMari method which is by category (clothes, books, paper, miscellaneous and sentimental - check out her documentary on Netflix - Tidying up with Marie Kondo ) but do it! You deserve to have the best life - And the lightest one too! Ready to KonMari your business? Schedule your Business X-Ray today! A new year and a new resolution!!!
This year my only resolution is to be SELFISH! Yes, you read that right...I struggled with my word for 2019 and even though inspiring, growth, focused, and intentional sounded trendy and way cuter I want to be selfish - no I crave being SELFISH!!! While asking God for a sign that I could and should be selfish this year I came across Matthew 5:16 which says "let your light shine before others..." which to me it was His permission for me to be selfish and put myself first! Here are 5 tips on how you can do that too: 1. Change your mindset - instead of blaming yourself for all of the things that you have done wrong or not accomplished tap yourself on that back for all of the things that you have done right, the things that you are proud of and the things you have overcome. 2. Get an accountability partner - this person needs to be someone out of your circle of love. It needs to be that one friend that has no filter between brain and mouth and will care more about your results than your feelings! 3. Plan, Plan, Plan - if you fail to plan you plan to fail! Put yourself in your calendar and make a plan of action for your goals. 5. Prioritize - put yourself first, pay yourself first, feed yourself first, reach for your dreams first and give yourself permission to come before everyone and everything else! You are not the same person that started 2018 - all of your obstacles, trials and tribulations that lead you to become the person that will rock 2019! You are not the same person that started 2018 - all of your obstacles, trials and tribulations that lead you to become the person that will rock 2019! You are not the same person that started 2018, all of your obstacles, trials and tribulations have made you the person that will absolutely rock in 2019! And I will be right here, cheering you on! Watch the facebook live here! Do you want to have my eyes on your business? Book your business x-ray today! |
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