We talk a lot about rewriting our money story and choosing a new belief system, but what does that actually look like? I want to share a few tips with you on how to do it the right way.
In reality, most of our money beliefs are not actually ours to begin with, they are a mix of beliefs that have been instilled in us from our grandparents, parents and families. Add in what we receive from social conditioning (social media, our co-workers, our friends, etc.) and it can be difficult to discern what it is we really believe for ourselves.
So, when you choose to rewrite your story you need to create a regression timeline. Take time and look at your life year by year, beginning with your earliest memories from childhood to identify common money stories that might exist in your life. For example, maybe your father lost his job when you were 7 and that had a great impact on your family. Now when you look at how you handle money, you are extremely frugal even when you don't need to be because you do not want to find yourself in the same position as your parents. Take a careful look at all of the patterns of behavior that may be repeating cycles in your life because you haven’t changed your perspective on the past.
Now that you have identified your money stories, look for what was amazing in those stories. For example, reframe your thought pattern to: even though my dad lost his job and we were eating rice & beans, I was spending every afternoon in the park.
Find the goodness in your story, see how the things that happened made you more resourceful or more caring. Reframe the story into a new and better story that made you the amazing human being that you are today.
I have my own story on reframing my past; when my family had to leave everything behind in Brazil to come to the to the US. Not only did they have to leave their possessions, they also left behind their community and who they were. So instead of saying my parents had to leave everything behind and they had nothing, I say “my parents invested all that they had to make room for more.”
Make sure you do not skip over this examination of the past as the first step in rewriting your money story. Why? Because you can't move forward without this deep understanding of where your beliefs came from.
Now, as you start to plan for the future you get to choose a new money system and belief. The key will be actually acting on that belief, because remember your life doesn’t change by inspiration and motivation, it changes by the actions that you take. The thing is, that even though you are taking on this new money mindset, it doesn't mean that all of your money struggles will disappear, but now you will make a change in the way you respond to them.
So how do you do that? You have to actively act on your new belief system - you have to believe that when you’re paying bills that you’re just making room for more money to come in. You have to prioritize being generous and allowing yourself to buy the things you want and need. You have to normalize investing in your business.
Make sure you also look for the wealth in other areas of your life as well, see the abundance that doesn’t come from money, but from the world around you. Celebrate that you can sleep late and wake up without an alarm clock, celebrate the crafts that you make, celebrate the conversations you have with friends and family. See all aspects of your life as abundant.
Now, here is something I get asked all the time -- if I am content and celebrating my abundance, am I able to still crave more? The answer is YES! You can live in a state of contentment and gratitude and still have desires for bigger and better things. Why? Because who benefits from your playing small? Who benefits from you downplaying your gifts? Who benefits from your lack mindset? The answer is: No One, except your comfort zone!
Now lets look at it from the other perspective. Who benefits when you are ready to really step into your marketplace and show up with your skills and talents? Who benefits when you are ready to have success? When you are ready to live a life that is full of abundance? Everybody Wins! What you might not immediately see is that there is a ripple effect -- your children are watching, you get to invest in your community and the causes you care for.
So now is the time to show up for yourself, to step into your new money mindset, to believe in the difference you can make and to put you and your business first.
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