3 Ways Your Community Might Be Holding You Back from Your Goals

​Is your community holding you back from reaching your goals?!  Let's examine three ways to easily identify that it is time to find a new community to support you!

1) Your money goals might be too big for your community.  Have you ever shared a money goal to your friends and almost felt embarrassed - like "who do I think I am to have this goal?!"  Be aware if you ever feel that feeling of being embarrassed, shrinking or downplaying your own game, then you probably aren't surrounded by the right community.  You know how Dave Ramsey talks about wanting to buy the smallest house in a really nice neighborhood with lots of big houses -- the same theory applies here:  You don't want to have the biggest goals in your community.  You want to be mindful that your community supports your goals and challenges your goals.  If your goals challenge them and trigger them, you might need to find a new community.

2) Your community has the hard worker mentality and thinks that your job is just too easy.  You might hear their judgement about not working hard enough -- because you aren't driving through blizzards to get to work or dropping your sick kids off at daycare to put in long hours, you aren't working hard enough to make the money you are making.  They may not say these things so blatantly, instead it may be offhanded comments like: You are so lucky! How do you make so much without working at all?! While this comment may seem simple enough, if you hear it enough, you may start to internalize the need to work more.  

In reality, you need to make the shift from being a hard worker to an aligned worker.  I used to be a hard worker and I was broke.  When I had my babies, I had a c-section and both times I brought my laptop with me to the hospital to get work done.  I worked my entire maternity leave and at 7 weeks old both of my kids went to daycare so I could get back to the office.  I was a hard worker and I was broke!  So hard work does not equal making more money, no matter how much people will tell you that is the case! Aligned work may look easier but it is simply because you are operating from your zone of genius and speaking from a place of authenticity.  It doesn't feel like or look like work when you are in your zone!  If you feel like you have to prove you are working hard enough in your community, then it might be time to find a new community.

3) Your community tries to put you into a mold of who you used to be but that mold no longer serves you.  You may hear things like: "Oh but you always used to do it this way!" or "You never thought that way before!" or "Oh you never used to get upset about this before!" Again, these statements may seem innocent enough but it is a clear indicator that your community wants you to stay the person you have always been.  They aren't able to see the changes you have made or the bigger goals you are reaching for.  Look for a community that is interested in learning more about the things you are now passionate about, even if it is something that is completely new to you! Surround yourself with people who challenge you to explore this new way of thinking, who push you to continue to be the best version of yourself. 

I want to leave you with a final thought: a rising tide raises all boats -- when you step into your full potential, you are going to give subconscious permission to everyone around you to do the same thing.  Life is too short to surround yourself with people who make you feel like you need to shrink! You have worked too hard to get here, just to get here, it is time for more!  I promise you, it gets better and better!

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