One of my New Year's resolutions or evolution as I have renamed it is to live more with less! I have found that when I have less I truthfully live more! A few years ago when I had to pack my 4 bedroom house in a 20 x 20 truck I realized how much excess we had as a family. Then moving into a smaller house with less things gave me so much freedom.
Thinking back I was "slaved" to my things. That big house took forever to clean and all of those clothes took forever to wash and the pile of 20 plates and 50 cups did not wash itself or got themselves to the dishwasher/cabinets without some help. So many weekends I spent cleaning and cooking to have a less chaotic week. So many times I said no to people, events, opportunities because I needed to get my stuff in order! This year my word is "selfish" which is not a bad thing I have learned. This is the year that I will put myself first in all areas of my life. This is the year that my happiness will come from living simply. This year I will de-clutter the house, my business, my circle of friends and most of all my heart. I have let go of all of the things that no longer serve me to create a "transformational" (Just made up that word) space in and out of my physical space. One of the first things that I did was to say NO and know in my heart that no explanation is necessary. No, I don't feel like it and that is the end of that. I don't have to have a mysterious illness or pretend to be busy. The people worth keeping in my circle understand it very well and the ones that don't I am happy to see them go and grow. Lots of clients tell me that they want to put their house in order but are emotionally unable to do so. My response is one that I live by: "When our outside is organized the clutter inside of us tend to organize itself". If you feel emotionally unable to organize make yourself do it anyways. Do the flylady method which is 15 minutes at a time (her motto is you can do anything for 15 minutes - check her out at www.flylady.net) or do the KonMari method which is by category (clothes, books, paper, miscellaneous and sentimental - check out her documentary on Netflix - Tidying up with Marie Kondo ) but do it! You deserve to have the best life - And the lightest one too! Ready to KonMari your business? Schedule your Business X-Ray today!
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A new year and a new resolution!!!
This year my only resolution is to be SELFISH! Yes, you read that right...I struggled with my word for 2019 and even though inspiring, growth, focused, and intentional sounded trendy and way cuter I want to be selfish - no I crave being SELFISH!!! While asking God for a sign that I could and should be selfish this year I came across Matthew 5:16 which says "let your light shine before others..." which to me it was His permission for me to be selfish and put myself first! Here are 5 tips on how you can do that too: 1. Change your mindset - instead of blaming yourself for all of the things that you have done wrong or not accomplished tap yourself on that back for all of the things that you have done right, the things that you are proud of and the things you have overcome. 2. Get an accountability partner - this person needs to be someone out of your circle of love. It needs to be that one friend that has no filter between brain and mouth and will care more about your results than your feelings! 3. Plan, Plan, Plan - if you fail to plan you plan to fail! Put yourself in your calendar and make a plan of action for your goals. 5. Prioritize - put yourself first, pay yourself first, feed yourself first, reach for your dreams first and give yourself permission to come before everyone and everything else! You are not the same person that started 2018 - all of your obstacles, trials and tribulations that lead you to become the person that will rock 2019! You are not the same person that started 2018 - all of your obstacles, trials and tribulations that lead you to become the person that will rock 2019! You are not the same person that started 2018, all of your obstacles, trials and tribulations have made you the person that will absolutely rock in 2019! And I will be right here, cheering you on! Watch the facebook live here! Do you want to have my eyes on your business? Book your business x-ray today! I have recently realized that I am a big contributor of the make believe Pinterest Perfect Life and I vow to stop it - like NOW!
You see, we went to the mountains over the thanksgiving holiday and I posted the most beautiful pictures. They were definitely Pinterest Perfect! What I didn't post was that my car was absolutely trashed because I am a #mom of 2 and since I was going to pick up my dad at the airport and this is his first time visiting us since we moved to Colorado - I decided to go to the car wash. Well, while I am IN THE CAR WASH like in the tunnel with all of those brushes and water I realized the car in front of me wasn't moving. As much as I slammed on my breaks my car was in neutral and in the belt so it didn't make a difference. I kept honking my horn and screaming for help while my kids were also screaming in the background and my car slammed the car in front of me and soon as I thought that was the worst of it all I also got hit from behind! But no... you didn't see any of that in my social media! Then the next day while going down one of the steepest hills in Cripple Creek, CO I noticed the tire was making a funny sound. Mind you, I am absolutely terrified of driving in the mountains specially in the snow. All I think about was that it could possibly be my lucky day and I could meet Jesus way before my plan. Yes, I am that scared! So getting a flat tire in a semi-blister conditions while going down a steep hill is not what I planned on doing on Thanksgiving. Not by a long shot! But then again, you didn't see any of this in my social media - what I actually posted was a bunch of pictures perfectly taken after maybe 500 tries that everyone looked decent and I looked semi-pretty! LOL Then it dawned on me that everyone is tired of the Pinterest Perfect! The best adventures, the best people and the craziest stories comes from the Pinterest fails! Like, when I baked my daughters first birthday cake that I thought I was Martha Stewart and when I was icing it an hour before the actual birthday party it fell on the floor and my quick thinking (or lack of) put the cake back on the stand and served to all of the guests! Don't worry though - that was the end of me making any cakes. From now on I will post the real stuff - from my best angles - but still real stuff! Click here to the facebook live! Ready to create a business that fits with your non-pinterest life? Book your Business X-Ray today! Self love is all the talk these days. I am going to give you 5 steps to really embark on said self love journey.
I once walked away from a marriage that wasn’t good for me. I slept in my car because I decided that even if I didn’t love myself or the person that I became at that point I needed to respect myself enough to walk away from what was toxic. 5) Self Love - Do you love yourself enough to be happy just the way you are? Do you love yourself enough to care for yourself? Do you love yourself enough to go to the doctor, to do the things that will make you happier? I saw a video recently of a psychologist saying that you cannot love without respect and admiration. And I believe that to be the absolute truth. So even if you don’t love yourself just yet - start respecting and admiring yourself and soon enough you will! You can watch my journey to self-love here! And if you are ready to fall in love with your marketing, download the Millionaire Marketing Blueprint today! You might believe that not living authentically comes with a price tag—the latest fashion, the new car, the fancy neighborhood—but the true cost goes beyond money. It's unfulfillment. The social pressure to maintain a Pinterest-perfect life is immense. However, many find that living this "dream" leaves them feeling lonely and longing for the imperfect happiness they once had.
In the pursuit of perfection, we become restless, always chasing the next best thing and never pausing to enjoy the present. There will always be someone who seems prettier, happier, healthier, or wealthier. The key is to live authentically to yourself, letting go of societal standards and embracing an imperfectly fulfilled life. If you needed a sign, this is it! Chase the feelings of joy and happiness, not just material things. Be yourself, as everyone else is taken! And if you are not sure if your business feels like you - book your Business X-Ray Today! Sunday was one of those days for me.
Everyone was so excited to gain an hour of sleep and I was here wondering when bed time would come because I was over it. It all started with my husband leaving for work on Friday night and what was suppose to be a 2 day job turned into 3 and he wasn't back until Monday night. The kids didn't want to go anywhere since we have been traveling so much. We have gone to Vail, CO, Mt. Rushmore, SD and Breckenridge, CO in a month (I know, who would complain about travelling? Ahhhh kids - insert eye roll). So Friday night I am not feeling too hot. Sinus headache, migraine, sore throat and the works. Adding the whole lone ranger thing and my son refusal to get a hair cut by a professional so I had to take matters in my own hands. He was started to look like a homeless hippie. Clippers and bathtub combined with a boy that has lots and lots of beautiful thick hair and a daughter that is only 7 but things she is his personal stylist commenting on every single angle of his hair cut, things were about to take an ugly turn. The witch came out. I was tired, I was cranky, I was hungry and just annoyed to deal with all the nonsense. You know those days that you take a good look of yourself and you feel ashamed of the way you are acting - well this was one of my days. Everyone has bad days. We all do. Even the girl that you think she has all of her ducks in a row - she has bad days too. Life just happens in cycles and some of those cycles are not fun - at all. But ending the day on a bad note is a choice. I took my little ducks, cleaned up the tub, and called out for a family meeting. We seated across from each other and each said 2 things that the others could do better on. They are 7 and 8 and they told me exactly what I could do much much better on. I had a choice, I stopped the cycle. I chose joy! I hope you will too! And if your business isn't feeling aligned or bringing you joy, I would love to help you change that! Book your business x-ray session today! Money mindset is a hot topic these days, with some people believing they can wish their debt away. While the law of attraction is real, there's a method to creating the perfect money mindset.
Our brains are like WiFi devices, emitting signals that the Universe (or God, as I call it) picks up on, bringing things into fruition—good or bad. When we're in a negative mindset, disasters can seem to come in threes, while positivity can lead to a string of good luck. However, beware of money mindset being used as a marketing strategy. Many gurus teach these mindsets to sell you something out of your budget. True mindset change comes from practical money management. It's impossible to have a positive mindset when you're struggling to pay bills. You can't thrive when you're in survival mode. The mindset will come naturally when you feel more in control—when you have a budget, emergency fund, and financial cushion. The part that doesn't come naturally requires changing the way you talk to yourself about money, especially the thoughts ingrained from childhood and struggles. Your money mindset will change forever when you realize you've grown, flourished, and achieved amazing things! Last week, I had a unique coaching experience—I saw a client in my bathing suit. I've debated invoicing her for this, as I normally don't charge people to see me in my bathing suit! Honestly, I even hesitated to take a coaching call at the pool. But, isn't working from anywhere what attracted me to virtual work in the first place?
I faced my fears and insecurities, taking her call while watching my children play in the pool (they're great swimmers, by the way), with my eyes on them and my heart on her. Then, I noticed a couple staring at me, pointing, and clearly talking about me. My mind went to judgment. Were they judging my appearance, my choice to work while my children played, or my presence in the moment? After finishing the coaching call and getting my children out of the pool for lunch, the couple complimented me on my bathing suit. I felt the judgment rolling off my shoulder as it should have. I realized I was assuming and projecting my own insecurities as a mom onto the situation, feeling the famous mom guilt for not being fully present. Truthfully, I didn't want to be in the moment. I wanted to work, to serve my client in my bathing suit because that's what I love doing. Even if a mega million comes my way, I will still coach! But the mom guilt still pokes its head in. I reminded myself that I had just spent a week being present and in the moment with my children: playing billiards, air hockey, swimming, and watching movies. I've been present when they're sick, having bad days, and even great days. But what I'm giving them is much more precious than mere presence—I'm giving them a happy mom! Your children don't care about your work or your cellulite—they want what you want for them: a happy heart! Self Love and Money: The Path to Confidence and Success
Introduction: Yesterday, at my dentist appointment (shoutout to Lotus Family Dental in Aurora/Centennial!), a conversation about confidence got me thinking. Confidence isn't just crucial at work; it's a game-changer in everyday life. Key Points:
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